II. Three Principles To Practice

 

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1. Positivity

 
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People do good when they feel good, not when they feel bad. Always communicate what you WANT—NOT what you do not want. Change negatives into positives. “No running” becomes “We walk in the hallways.” “Stop talking” becomes “This is quiet time.”

 

Choice Ends When Life Ends

2. Choice

 
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We are constantly making choices, and we do not usually argue with them. When was the last time you argued with your own choice? In addition, realize that not making a choice is a choice. The adage, “I have no choice,” is not valid. Choice ends when life ends. Regardless of a situation you cannot change, a stimulus that prompts you, or an impulse, you always have the freedom and the power to choose your response.

For example, sometimes it is necessary to have a student realize that any behavior is the result of a decision and a choice that the person made. “He hit me first,” but a decision to hit back is still a choice.

 
 

THe Most effective approach to change behavior

 

3. Reflection

 
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A person can control another person only temporarily. But no one can actually change another person. Asking REFLECTIVE questions is the most effective approach to prompt change in others. Key questions are built into the system. Here are some reflective questions so that you can see the power of reflection:

 
 

  • Are you willing to try something different if it would help you?

  • Does it feel as if we’re moving forward, or does it feel as if we’re stuck?

  • What procedure can you develop so you won’t be a victim of your impulses?